Learning to love eachother in the way that feels best for the other person isn’t always the easiest. In fact, sometimes it can be quite hard. Taking the Five Love Languages Quiz has helped my husband and I grab a deeper understanding of how we receive love and how our partner receives love best. It also gives some context on disappointments or miscommunications in our relationship over the years.
What was so so interesting about this quiz is we both got the same exact top three love languages. And yet, we still struggle to meet eachothers love needs sometimes. The reality is, even though we share the same love languages, how we interpret each is different.
So, what are the Five Love Languages?
The five love languages are Words of Affirmation, Physical Touch, Gifts, Quality Time, & Acts of Service. The book, “The Five Love Languages”(click the link) breaks down what each love language looks and feels like. It is a quick and powerful read. You can also find out more about each here.
Our top love language for each of us is Quality Time (our second is physical touch). For Emmanuel, quality time means sitting with eachother, talking, non-stop. For me, quality time means being in the same room, usually right next to eachother, but not saying a word. With this very real example, clearly both of our love languages can’t be expressed at the same time.
Knowing yours and your partner’s love languages will not solve all your problems. But it can give you insight into how you prefer to show your love, and to be loved. It is a conversation starter that can give you and your partner insight into how to best show love to one another.
Emmanuel and I first took this super fast quiz 14 years ago, and when marriage started to feel a smidge hard, we took it again. Truth be told, we got the same top love languages (though some may not), but it gave us a refresher on what it is that we prefer and opened a conversation to tell eachother what that ideally looks like and feels like for us.
Have you taken the Five Love Languages Quiz? Did anything surprise you?
Hey, I love the five love languages. Leon and I redo it periodically as well to check in and we haven’t noticed much changes either, just maybe the order of the top three.